Listening Mistake: Defensive Listening

Yes,  but! How many times have you experienced this? We are talking about an idea we have and someone else has to tell us we are wrong.

In an intimate relationship, we need to be good listeners. We can’t just disagree and blast our partners by telling them they’re wrong.

We can disagree and still give our partners time to fully express themselves and then respectfully ask them to listen to “your side” of the story.

However, this is where the reflective listening process is so important. We show our partner we are listening by reflecting back what they are saying to us, not what we think of what they are saying.

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